Legend, this is some solid advice from Lady Arachne, and if you don't understand it, it would probably be a good idea to re-read it until you do, because she hit the nail on the head with this.
And why would you want to merge with an alliance that you're holding up? Most of all the good players left UF1, all that's left now is the newbs and n00bs....you got a lot of teaching to do, and everything Lady Arachne said applies doubly then.
Also, I'm so honored to have made your hate list....maybe one of these days I'll be lucky enough to get a hate thread about me. A girl can only dream