I'm sorry it came to blows; you have a lot to learn, as I. AL is not the best model for all situations. Takes a lot of dedication from a lot of players to make our system work. And I know you were short-handed.
You have promise or else I would not have sent you Mack101's threat directly. I learned from the way he handled cangur that he doesn't care the method, he just wants the guy eliminated without using his own troops. He's considered a pariah in about 5 different forums.
Nothing in that "Alliance Leadership Guide" can prepare you for conflict-resolution, persuasion/influence, promoting growth/learning, and building respect. That comes from the
character of the player/leader and only experience will help you apply it.
Good Luck in Omnicron!